| Location | Crossgates,leeds |
| Age | 66 years |
| Cause of Death | Cancer |
| Date of Birth | 04/08/1940 |
| Date of Death | 08/11/2006 |
| Visitors | 2,359 since 15/02/2007 |
| Creator |
Died suddenly of stomach cancer but peacefully in the loving arms of his wife at home, surrounded by
his loving Family.
Darling husband and father, devoted grandad, much loved brother and uncle. An exceptional loving
husband to Marie. (Will be sadly missed).
Brian You're my man, my mighty king, And I'm the jewel in your crown, You were my protector, my man,
my life, What am I going to do Brian, My heart is broken in two, We loved each other so much, I
can't imagine my life without you. 28 years together, our love just got stronger, I can't believe
this has happened, Life is so cruel, I'm so proud of you Brian.
Goodnight, God bless, My Little Love x. I kept my promise to you, got you home. From your
heartbroken wife Marie. R.I.P
Dad You were the greatest man alive, The wisest ever known, You were the rightful king to us, And
should have sat upon a throne, For when we were in darkness, You were our guiding light, When
everything went wrong, You put our world right, You were the greatest man alive, The best friend we
ever had, We must be the luckiest Family, To be proud to call you our Dad. Your everloving
heartbroken kids; Marie, Raymond and Neil. xxx
Grandad We love you so much, But our love will never die, And you will always be by our side, If you
don't have any Friends, I will get a plane and come up there, And make sure you have some Friends.
Goodnight, God bless. Your everloving Teapots, Sheardon, Charlie and Bronte
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It is the 1st Anniversary of my Fathers death (8th November 2006), and we are all going through the
emotions. Our Dad died suddenly, we was not prepared at all, we are still in shock. Dad had been
going to the doctors several times saying he didn't feel well and couldn't go to the toilet, he had
lost a lot of weight and felt tired all the time. They told him he had constipation and even sent a
nurse out for a enema. My dad was finally rushed in Hospital 1st October 2006 as he was bringing
green bile up, his doctor told my Mam "whatever is in your Brian's stomach, is Very nasty".
After lot's of tests and prodding, they put my dad on a drip and morphine, Dad could not eat, he
tried so hard but he kept bringing this Green bile up, after been in hospital on and off for 5 weeks
they removed the green bile from his stomach, we was so worried nobody was telling us anything, my
Mam even kept saying "please tell me, my Brain isn't going to die as he has deteriorated in front of
me "and the nurses kept saying Brians going to be fine he isn't going to die. So we held on to
that, thinking he will be ok because we thought 'has Dad got Cancer'.
October 23rd 2006 (My Birthday), we had a meeting with the specialist. That is when we found out my
Dad had Bowel Cancer, we was all being brave, but were in pain at the knowledge of our Father being
so ill. They drew us diagrams showing us where and what there were going to do. We asked every
question possible, in particular if he was going to die. They said "He needs a small operation to
remove a blockage and some chemo but he will be fine". We went back to dad and said you can beat
this, even if they have to give him a bag, gave him a big kiss and hugged, he just grinned.
Dad seemed to be getting better, or at least in higher spirits (hope was our guide) he looked well
and even tried to eat so it was looking positive. Then, out of the blue a female Doctor turned up
31st October 2006 in the evening, luckily my mam was there and his sister Cath. She told Mam and
dad that he didnt have Bowel Cancer, he had Stomach cancer well my Mam and Cath started crying.
Fifty years ago my Dad had an operation to remove half of his stomach, she told them that he should
go home has he's been in hospital too long, and that he would start chemo in November and that he
would get 18 months of QUALITY LIFE!
Mam phoned me that evening, she didnt want to tell me as I was with the children at an Halloween
party, but i knew by her voice there was something wrong; so I went round straight away. She told
me the news, I was devasted; I could not stop crying, I was so confused. What was happening! How
have they got it so wrong? We were all so brave in front of my Dad, and he seemed positive; so we
hoped and prayed everything will be ok.
Then Dad fell ill that weekend, he had high potassium, but the doctors said he would be ok. He
finally came home 7th November late at night, no ambulance; Darren (Nephew) brought him home with a
bag of medication didnt tell him what they were for! He was so pleased to be home, he loved his
home, Mam told us to come round in morning as it was late. Dad took a turn for worst as when it
came to bedtime he could not move, he crawled up the stairs and then into bed. Mam was heartbroken
but he was a proud man, and told her he will be fine.
Dad was not the same after that he deteriated very quickly. Thay had a terrible night, Doctors came
in the morning with Macmillan nurses, that is when we recieved the devastating news that my Dad was
DYING. Mam had to ask them, a Macmillan nurse broke the news! Not the doctors! Mam was in shock,
she told her he would die within a week. Mam phoned me with the dreadful news, but I knew as I had
been round that morning, but I wanted them to tell her, I was mortified, 'what the hell is going on
they have lied to us'.
That evening I took his Grandchildren to him, and my hubby Neil, they were in shock to see him so
poorly. My eldest threw himself on him, and could not stop crying. It was an awful, unimaginable
nightmare, sure to God this wasnt happening. We went home in shock, I could not rest, so I went
back round. My dads son Andrew and his Daughter Joanne were there, eveyone was there. The
Macmillan nurses turned up and explained everything, even they were in shock at his quick
deteriation. They left at 10pm then all of a sudden Dads eldest son, Andrew came downstairs and
said my dad was in pain, we ran upstairs, it was scary, worringing and traumatic; Dad was screaming
in pain his leg had gone totally white, he was shouting in agony 'snap my leg off'. We tried to him
comfortable, it seemed to take along time to get him comfy. Then dad said, "they're was someone at
the door" , he was right, it was the night nurse he came up and said, "dont quote me, but I think
his having a deep vein thrombosis attack. Well, we was all in shock, it took the Mcmillan nurses
half an hour to get there. By the time they got there we had just got him comfy. He was all there,
talking to us then right out of the blue, the nusre said, "right Brian this won't hurt, I'm going to
give you an injection in your leg, and the pain will go away". At that point she turned to Mam and
told her, "dont move", and Mam said "why"? Is he dying? The nurse said "not long now". We all
started to cry, because as she said that, Dads breathing went strange. We all did'nt know what to
do. Mam held him tight and told him how much she loved him, thanked him for the best 28 years of
her life. She even made him laugh, he told us he loved us all then Mam said, "Brian youre not alone
darling, i've got you, I got you home sweetheart, I promised you; everyone is here, now close your
eyes babe, don't be scared , go to sleep darling, ssshhh sssshhhh".
That was it, he died. We were all devastated, I could not believe it, we was supposed to get 18
months of quality life with him. We did'nt even get a day with him. Personally I think, they sent
him home to die, because all we got was lies; I will never ever trust the NHS again. We got robbed
of quality time which should have been given to him and our family. I will never forget how they
treated him, he was our life, all i can say is this; my mam got him home, and he had his loving
devoted family with him. Its about time they found a cure for that horrible disease which
devastates so many lives and families.
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PLEASE FEEL FREE TO LIGHT A CANDLE OR ADD PICTURES,ALSO LOOK AT MY GRANDADS SITE - RAYMOND BRATTLEY
THANKYOU EVERYONE WHO'S LIT A CANDLE FOR MY DAD ITS VERY TOUCHING, THANKYOU GTS FRIENDS XXXXXXXX
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3 Years tomorrow We Miss you so much Dad xxx
Dear Dad, We love you,
We miss you so much
Your love and your kindness
Your soft gentle touch
If we had to live life over
We would choose you once more
If it meant losing you again
It's worth all the tears in the world.
While our hearts are now filled
With sadness and tears
We had many good memories
You will always be near
The day that you left us
Tears fell from the sky
Our hearts filled with sorrow
Your final goodbye
For years you did fight
And struggled to stay here
But you sent us a sign
When the end was quite near
Thank you for sending
That beautiful rainbow our way
Your soul is at peace
And not far away
Your body has died
But your spirit lives strong
In each one of us
Where it forever belongs
Your time here was short
We wish you could stay
But they need you upstairs
The angels called you their way
Spread your wings and fly
Up to heaven you go
No longer will you suffer
Down on earth here below
They won’t hear you coming
So softly you walk
When you get up to heaven
Make sure that you knock
You struggle no longer
You are free of pain
Your mind is clear
And call us by name
In the breeze we hear your whisper
Feel your warmth from the sun
Upon the lake we see your reflection
In the stream we see you run
Until the day comes
That we cross over too
Our family will not be complete
Until we meet that day with you
Hi Dad,
Been to youre resting place today carnt believe its 3 years tomorrow god how i wish you was still here, youre teapot lids are growing up so quickly you would be so proud of them they miss you so much everytime they see a bright star they say its you ha!ha! i know you will be watching over us all especially my mam but she is doing well to say you would be so proud of her but you was always was anyway ...she is a tough liggle cookie really, Always in our thoughts dad we love you so much
Youre everloving devoted daughter Marie
Neil & Sheardon, Charlie & Bronte
Ziggy
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UNFORGETABLE ,
Hello my dearest darling Brian ,On sunday youre Anniversary 3 years my sweet,just feels like yesterday always will,Going to let you rest my love ,carnt keep asking you to come back because you carnt ,as sad as it is life as got to go on,our beautiful family youre teapots there growing up so fast there a credit to our Marie and Neil,Raymond did it always said he would ,but you knew that as well takes after his Mam,said we were 2 peas in a pod ha ha ,My life is changing starting to get myself out and meeting people ,l think you know that my Guardian Angel youre making it happen ,Dont want me sat crying anymore ,love you with my every beighn 31 years along time ,never ever will you be forgotten ,come on now ,will be to upset sunday ,will be visiting you my darling ,Tell you this my love been the hardest 3 years of my life ,missed you so so very much Goodnight Godbless,my love my life my everything ,Youre Everlovig Marie xxx
Remembering you all.....
To us you were so special
what mor is there to say
except we wish with all our hearts
that you were here today.
If all the stars that shine above,
could speak and tell you of there love..
then just a fraction,you woud know,
Just how much they loved you so.....
My thoughts are with you all at this sorry time,I know how hard it is,i still cry myself everyday,I miss my mam so much marie,i still hurt.Its so lonely without yer mam.Treasure every moment,I wish i had of done.Stay strong x xsending my love x x
♥♥ AN ANGEL FOR AN ANGEL ♥♥
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MARK KARENS WEDDING
WELL WHAT CAN WE SAY THEY DID IT THERE MR MRS NICHOLSON,YOU WOULD HAVE BEEN SO PROUD OF THEM WAS PERFECT ,OPENED A CAN OF WORMS ,NOW ANYONE WITH A DISABILITY HAVE A RIGHT TO GET MARRIED ,HE REMINDS ME SO MUCH OF YOU ,HE ALWAYS GETS WHAT HE WANTS HA HA ,THEY LOOKED SO BEAUTIFUL,OUR BRONTE A BRIDESMAID THEY ALL DID EVERYONE ,A FAIRYTALE COME TRUE XXX I FOUND THE WHITE FEATHER AT MY FEET I KNEW IT WAS YOU BRIAN ,WELL SWEETY GOING TO BED NOW SHATTERED,HA HA YES UP LAUGHING DRINKING XXX LOVE YOU MY DARLING BY FOR NOW XXXYOURE EVERLOVING MARIE XXX
HAPPY BIRTHDAY BRIAN X
HELLO MY DARLING ,IT MIGHT BE AWHILE YOU HEAR FROM ME ,BUT MY DARLING YOURE NEVER FAR AWAY YOURE ALWAYS ON MY MIND AND IN MY HEART ,I LOVE YOU SO VERY MUCH ,JUST FEELS LIKE YESTERDAY I LOST YOU DOESNT GET ANY EASIER IF ANYTHING GETS HARDER ,MISS YOU LIKE HELL MY LIFE WILL NEVER BE THE SAME ,LOVED YOU TOO MUCH MY DARLING ,THE GRADUATION WAS SOMETHING WAS JUST AMAZING MY LOVE IM SO PROUD OF HIM ,AS YOU WOULD BE XOUR MARKS AND KARENS WEDDING 15 TH THIS MONTH ,WHO WOULD HAVE BELIEVED IT ,THEY MOVED INTO THERE FLAT SUNDAY WAS THERE TO SEE THEM ,GOT TO SEE IF THEY CAN MANAGE ,HE WILL BECAUSE HES LIKE HIS BIG BROTHER YOU MY SWEET ,THE KIDS ARE FINE BROTE THE MINI ME ,SHES BEAUTIFUL BRIAN A PROPER MADAME HA HA AND CHARLIE IS YOU ,EVERYTHING ABOUT HIM IS YOU HES A FLYER X,AND OUR SHEARDON WHAT A HANSOME YOUNG BOY HES SOMETHING ,WHERE ALL FINE BRIAN WE JUST MISS YOU ALOT BABY WE RELLY DO XXXWELL MY LOVE YOU ARE UNORGETABLE AND ALWAYS WILL BE GONNA GO NOW GETTING UPSET AND YOU WOULDNT WANT THAT ,ALL MY LOVE TO YOU FROM YOURE EVERLOVING WIFE MARIE LOVE YOU MILLIONS XXXHAPPY BIRTHDAY BRIAN XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
RAYMONDS GRADUATION
DEAR BRIAN ,HE DID IT MY LOVE ,BUT YOU KNEW HE ALWAYS WOULD ,WAS FANTASTIC WAS SO VERY PROUD OF HIM ,BRIAN ,ANDREW AND COLLETTE WAS THERE TOO ,WAS SO HAPPY FOR HIM WAS SOMETHING TO SEE ,SO MY LOVE WE DIDNT DO TO BAD IN BRINGING UP DID WE HA HA ,HE LOOKED SO HANDSOME IN HIS CLOAK AND GOWN ,WISH HM EVERY SUCESS FOR HIS FUTURE ,DOES REALLY DESERVE ,BY MY DARLING LOVE YOU LOADS AND WE KNOW YOURE WITH US ,HES DEDICATED ALL HIS WORK TO YOU MY SWEET XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
Happy Fathers Day Dad
The pain of not having you here on this day, hurts us all terribly Dad, we miss you so much. It does not seem long ago since we lost you. Mam misses you so much, we all do. But knowing you, you'll not be happy if we did not get on with it.
I finished my degree for you as well, I made that promise to you in my prayers to you. I dedicated my dissertation to you.
Anyway Dad watch over me Mam, Marie and the kids.
Give John my best.
All my love Dad, Happy Fathers Day
Your everloving Son
Raymond
My Dream of You
I had a lovely dream last night
I wish it had come true.
I travelled on a shooting star
and made my way to you.
You welcomed me with open arms
and held me oh so tight.
You took me to a wonderful place
and what a beautiful sight.
The angels were singing quietly
as you took me by the hand.
Into God's Beautiful Garden
a wonderous and pleasant land.
You kissed me softly on the lips
I held you close to me.
I didn't want to let you go
I couldn't set you free.
You told me that you loved me
and would for ever more.
But that I must go back now
and you led me to Heaven's Door.
I floated down upon a cloud
My eyes were filled with tears.
You waved goodbye once again
and said wait a few more years.
As I awoke this morning
and I lay there in my bed
I couldn't help but wonder
at all things you said.
I know you are at peace now,
and I am still your loving wife
I thank the dear Lord up above
for bringing you into my life.
So when my time is over
and I lay my head to rest
I'll go back on that shooting star
To the one I love the best.
Written by Jean Cavanagh 2009
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