Brian Donald Nicholson The Hat Or Nicko

Died suddenly of stomach cancer but peacefully in the loving arms of his wife at home, surrounded by his loving Family.

Darling husband and father, devoted grandad, much loved brother and uncle. An exceptional loving husband to Marie. (Will be sadly missed).

Brian You're my man, my mighty king, And I'm the jewel in your crown, You were my protector, my man, my life, What am I going to do Brian, My heart is broken in two, We loved each other so much, I can't imagine my life without you. 28 years together, our love just got stronger, I can't believe this has happened, Life is so cruel, I'm so proud of you Brian.

Goodnight, God bless, My Little Love x. I kept my promise to you, got you home. From your heartbroken wife Marie. R.I.P

Dad You were the greatest man alive, The wisest ever known, You were the rightful king to us, And should have sat upon a throne, For when we were in darkness, You were our guiding light, When everything went wrong, You put our world right, You were the greatest man alive, The best friend we ever had, We must be the luckiest Family, To be proud to call you our Dad. Your everloving heartbroken kids; Marie, Raymond and Neil. xxx

Grandad We love you so much, But our love will never die, And you will always be by our side, If you don't have any Friends, I will get a plane and come up there, And make sure you have some Friends. Goodnight, God bless. Your everloving Teapots, Sheardon, Charlie and Bronte

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It is the 1st Anniversary of my Fathers death (8th November 2006), and we are all going through the emotions. Our Dad died suddenly, we was not prepared at all, we are still in shock. Dad had been going to the doctors several times saying he didn't feel well and couldn't go to the toilet, he had lost a lot of weight and felt tired all the time. They told him he had constipation and even sent a nurse out for a enema. My dad was finally rushed in Hospital 1st October 2006 as he was bringing green bile up, his doctor told my Mam "whatever is in your Brian's stomach, is Very nasty".

After lot's of tests and prodding, they put my dad on a drip and morphine, Dad could not eat, he tried so hard but he kept bringing this Green bile up, after been in hospital on and off for 5 weeks they removed the green bile from his stomach, we was so worried nobody was telling us anything, my Mam even kept saying "please tell me, my Brain isn't going to die as he has deteriorated in front of me "and the nurses kept saying Brians going to be fine he isn't going to die. So we held on to that, thinking he will be ok because we thought 'has Dad got Cancer'.

October 23rd 2006 (My Birthday), we had a meeting with the specialist. That is when we found out my Dad had Bowel Cancer, we was all being brave, but were in pain at the knowledge of our Father being so ill. They drew us diagrams showing us where and what there were going to do. We asked every question possible, in particular if he was going to die. They said "He needs a small operation to remove a blockage and some chemo but he will be fine". We went back to dad and said you can beat this, even if they have to give him a bag, gave him a big kiss and hugged, he just grinned.

Dad seemed to be getting better, or at least in higher spirits (hope was our guide) he looked well and even tried to eat so it was looking positive. Then, out of the blue a female Doctor turned up 31st October 2006 in the evening, luckily my mam was there and his sister Cath. She told Mam and dad that he didnt have Bowel Cancer, he had Stomach cancer well my Mam and Cath started crying. Fifty years ago my Dad had an operation to remove half of his stomach, she told them that he should go home has he's been in hospital too long, and that he would start chemo in November and that he would get 18 months of QUALITY LIFE!

Mam phoned me that evening, she didnt want to tell me as I was with the children at an Halloween party, but i knew by her voice there was something wrong; so I went round straight away. She told me the news, I was devasted; I could not stop crying, I was so confused. What was happening! How have they got it so wrong? We were all so brave in front of my Dad, and he seemed positive; so we hoped and prayed everything will be ok.

Then Dad fell ill that weekend, he had high potassium, but the doctors said he would be ok. He finally came home 7th November late at night, no ambulance; Darren (Nephew) brought him home with a bag of medication didnt tell him what they were for! He was so pleased to be home, he loved his home, Mam told us to come round in morning as it was late. Dad took a turn for worst as when it came to bedtime he could not move, he crawled up the stairs and then into bed. Mam was heartbroken but he was a proud man, and told her he will be fine.

Dad was not the same after that he deteriated very quickly. Thay had a terrible night, Doctors came in the morning with Macmillan nurses, that is when we recieved the devastating news that my Dad was DYING. Mam had to ask them, a Macmillan nurse broke the news! Not the doctors! Mam was in shock, she told her he would die within a week. Mam phoned me with the dreadful news, but I knew as I had been round that morning, but I wanted them to tell her, I was mortified, 'what the hell is going on they have lied to us'.

That evening I took his Grandchildren to him, and my hubby Neil, they were in shock to see him so poorly. My eldest threw himself on him, and could not stop crying. It was an awful, unimaginable nightmare, sure to God this wasnt happening. We went home in shock, I could not rest, so I went back round. My dads son Andrew and his Daughter Joanne were there, eveyone was there. The Macmillan nurses turned up and explained everything, even they were in shock at his quick deteriation. They left at 10pm then all of a sudden Dads eldest son, Andrew came downstairs and said my dad was in pain, we ran upstairs, it was scary, worringing and traumatic; Dad was screaming in pain his leg had gone totally white, he was shouting in agony 'snap my leg off'. We tried to him comfortable, it seemed to take along time to get him comfy. Then dad said, "they're was someone at the door" , he was right, it was the night nurse he came up and said, "dont quote me, but I think his having a deep vein thrombosis attack. Well, we was all in shock, it took the Mcmillan nurses half an hour to get there. By the time they got there we had just got him comfy. He was all there, talking to us then right out of the blue, the nusre said, "right Brian this won't hurt, I'm going to give you an injection in your leg, and the pain will go away". At that point she turned to Mam and told her, "dont move", and Mam said "why"? Is he dying? The nurse said "not long now". We all started to cry, because as she said that, Dads breathing went strange. We all did'nt know what to do. Mam held him tight and told him how much she loved him, thanked him for the best 28 years of her life. She even made him laugh, he told us he loved us all then Mam said, "Brian youre not alone darling, i've got you, I got you home sweetheart, I promised you; everyone is here, now close your eyes babe, don't be scared , go to sleep darling, ssshhh sssshhhh".

That was it, he died. We were all devastated, I could not believe it, we was supposed to get 18 months of quality life with him. We did'nt even get a day with him. Personally I think, they sent him home to die, because all we got was lies; I will never ever trust the NHS again. We got robbed of quality time which should have been given to him and our family. I will never forget how they treated him, he was our life, all i can say is this; my mam got him home, and he had his loving devoted family with him. Its about time they found a cure for that horrible disease which devastates so many lives and families.

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